Category Archives: Family life

Challenge to parents

Your strategy will likely change based on the personality, temperament, and challenges of each child. Continue reading

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Advice for adult children of divorce

Adult children of divorce (ACOD) face daunting challenges in both life and marriage.

10 helpful points for people who never had the benefit of seeing a loving, committed marriage modeled for them. Continue reading

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The girl who never measured up

A sad story that goes to the heart of the concerns I wrote about in my book, “The 18 Year Factor – How our upbringing affects our lives and relationships.” Continue reading

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Parenting isn’t about you

Parents must be willing to start with their own hearts if they want to be used by God to help transform the hearts of their children. Continue reading

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God’s chosen ones – severely dysfunctional!

These people were messed up! This family history was severely dysfunctional! Did God ever pause and ask why He chose them? Be careful. We might need to ask the same question about… Continue reading

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A distant father

If she displayed to others what he thought to be right and good, then she would receive approval from her dad. As long as she pretended to be the obedient, respectful child, she was accepted. She grew up in hypocrisy, not knowing her father’s love. He was absent emotionally, and to this day, Lindy does not know him, though she still clearly hears his disapproval. Continue reading

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How childhood experiences become enemies of true love

Fear and control function as a kind of glue that cements past and present with a strong potential of ruining the future. Continue reading

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Summer reading worth your time

“I did not want to disappoint others so I created a false image of myself. I tried to look normal on the outside when everything within me was chaotic.” Continue reading

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Hurt by a distant father (Julie’s story)

Julie was baffled by unexplainable outbursts of anger and an almost continual feeling of discontentment — even though she was married to a loving, supportive husband and had four beautiful children. Continue reading

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Lisa’s Story: A quiet domineering father

I lived in fear of my father. Continue reading

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