Tag Archives: 18 Year factor

A story behind your story

Posted on May 16, 2023 by Wisdomforlife

The way we communicate, resolve conflict, process anger, and many other essential parts of life are shaped by your story. Continue reading →

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Don’t let the diagnosis define your destiny

Posted on April 2, 2023 by Wisdomforlife

______________________________________________________________ Many people identify with these experiences. They share in common the ongoing effects of a troubled upbringing. I call this the 18-year Factor. This is the first 18 years of life — the most impressionable years. Clear voices are making … Continue reading →

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Longing for her father’s approval

Posted on January 21, 2023 by Wisdomforlife

According to her father, she did not eat, dress, or date appropriately. Rather than gaining what her heart desired, she was farther away from the hope of ever being loved by her dad for who she was. Continue reading →

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Go easy on me

Posted on January 10, 2023 by Wisdomforlife

Looking back, I see ways I should have gone easier on others by better understanding painful parts of their past. I think we call this showing mercy and God provides the best example for us. Continue reading →

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Victimhood, vindictiveness, and vengeance

Posted on July 26, 2022 by Wisdomforlife

These emotions become a grid through which they read life and other people. Continue reading →

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Contractual relationships

Posted on June 4, 2022 by Wisdomforlife

Highly protective, suspicious and controlling adults must look back to ask if there is a story behind their approach to life and to people. Continue reading →

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The girl who never measured up

Posted on January 3, 2022 by Wisdomforlife

A sad story of how our upbringing affects our lives and relationships. Continue reading →

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Looking back to move ahead

Posted on October 16, 2021 by Wisdomforlife

Are you equipped to walk with others through deep issues? Continue reading →

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Responses to my book

Posted on June 18, 2021 by Wisdomforlife

After speaking to the staff, counselors, and social workers at one organization, the feedback was encouraging and humbling. Continue reading →

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New Ministry Focus

Posted on May 24, 2021 by Wisdomforlife

I am available for speaking at conferences, seminars, workshops, or churches.  Steve Cornell, President of the 18 Year Factor (LLC) 18yearfactor@gmail.com

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