Category Archives: Emotions

Emotional drugs of choice

Emotional reactions to past hurts and injuries give us a feeling of justified relief or emotional retaliation.

Yet those who choose emotional drugs often fail to realize that they are giving extended life to the damage. They allow an abuser or neglecter to extend his control and spread his damage to those who are close to us. Continue reading

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How to change our emotions

How can we make lasting changes in our lives? How can we control our emotions so that they lead to a healthy and God-honoring life? Continue reading

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Formula E429 could change your life!

Think of how many times we could defuse a situation by choosing better words and tones. But don’t miss my WARNING LABEL! Continue reading

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Forgiveness is an act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Playing the divine lottery?

As a young boy, I struggled with why God allowed these things to happen to my mom and dad. As the oldest son, I was more aware of the difficulties but did not have the maturity to handle it. Throughout those years, I often prayed for God to intervene with a “BIG” solutions. Continue reading

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Room for normal sadness

Do we have room in our lives for normal sadness? Do we have unrealistic expectations for gregariousness? There appears to be a significant need for helping people understand the role of sadness in life and in character formation.
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