Category Archives: Abuse

A distinction worthy of reflection

It’s a difference of feeling sorry for yourself or because of yourself. Continue reading

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Longing for her father’s approval

According to her father, she did not eat, dress, or date appropriately. Rather than gaining what her heart desired, she was farther away from the hope of ever being loved by her dad for who she was. Continue reading

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God of the vulnerable

To the Lord your God belong the heavens, even the highest heavens, the earth and everything in it….He defends the cause of the fatherless and the widow, and loves the foreigner residing among you, giving them food and clothing. Continue reading

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My father always told me I was stupid (Nora’s story)

Abuse casts a long shadow over a person’s life. Despite the good intentions of those who tried to encourage Nora, they didn’t realize that her receptor for words of encouragement was far too damaged for her to benefit from compliments. Continue reading

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Son of a prostitute

The layers of hurt, trauma, and pain are set in motion long before Jephthah had any control over his life. Continue reading

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Victimhood, vindictiveness, and vengeance

These emotions become a grid through which they read life and other people. Continue reading

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When the storms hit…

Truths to carry and guide us in difficult times. Continue reading

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The painful cycles of self-hatred

Part of the complexity of self-hatred is that it rarely exists alone. It has cousins who keep close company. Continue reading

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Four servants of God who battled fierce despair

Four servants of God. Each one reached an extremely low point in life. All of them felt that life was no longer worth living. Continue reading

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A distant father

If she displayed to others what he thought to be right and good, then she would receive approval from her dad. As long as she pretended to be the obedient, respectful child, she was accepted. She grew up in hypocrisy, not knowing her father’s love. He was absent emotionally, and to this day, Lindy does not know him, though she still clearly hears his disapproval. Continue reading

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