Category Archives: Child Abuse

The Self-blame trap

Self-blame, a toxic effect of a troubled 18-year factor, is often the basis for a self-limiting belief system children carry from their traumatic experiences into adulthood. Continue reading

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Summer reading worth your time

“I did not want to disappoint others so I created a false image of myself. I tried to look normal on the outside when everything within me was chaotic.” Continue reading

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Hurt by a distant father (Julie’s story)

Julie was baffled by unexplainable outbursts of anger and an almost continual feeling of discontentment — even though she was married to a loving, supportive husband and had four beautiful children. Continue reading

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Unsafe protective mechanisms

They prefer the safety of protectively circling the wagons to reduce the risk of more hurt—even though… Continue reading

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A life trapped in violence

Much of my childhood was spent crying, and I was often fearful that my mother would kill me. My mother once told me that she wished she had gotten rid of my siblings and me when she had the chance. My heart would break every time she said something like that. Continue reading

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A dark secret (sexual abuse)

Imagine what it does to a little girl’s sense of identity and security when her grandfather sexually violates her. How would Sue feel if someone told her to “just get over it” or “forgive him and move on”? How is she supposed to do this? Continue reading

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How could I kill my father?

Charlie’s home was a prison of fear and anger. He hated the man that should have been the most important person in his life. Home should be a safe place for children, a place filled with heartwarming memories. Charlie looked back on a place remembered for the fear and anger it produced. Continue reading

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