Category Archives: Child Abuse

The painful cycles of self-hatred

Part of the complexity of self-hatred is that it rarely exists alone. It has cousins who keep close company. Continue reading

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A distant father

If she displayed to others what he thought to be right and good, then she would receive approval from her dad. As long as she pretended to be the obedient, respectful child, she was accepted. She grew up in hypocrisy, not knowing her father’s love. He was absent emotionally, and to this day, Lindy does not know him, though she still clearly hears his disapproval. Continue reading

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Love must be earned

Unable to pinpoint the cause of her unrest, Lindy finally broke. She hit a wall and admitted failure…personal, marital, parental, social, and to her dismay, even spiritual. Continue reading

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Four approaches to parenting

What is your parenting style? take a closer look at four approaches to parenting. Continue reading

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Verbal abuse and appearance bullying

Consider why childhood verbal abuse and appearance bullying often cast a long shadow over adult lives and make adult relationships difficult.
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Four kinds of children from dysfunctional homes

Let me introduce you to the four kinds of children in relation to differences in reaction to a dysfunctional home. Continue reading

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Being a victim but rejecting a victim’s mentality

A woman in her early forties acknowledged that she finally began to overcome the effects of growing up in a violent home when… Continue reading

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How childhood experiences become enemies of true love

Fear and control function as a kind of glue that cements past and present with a strong potential of ruining the future. Continue reading

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The Self-blame trap

Self-blame, a toxic effect of a troubled 18-year factor, is often the basis for a self-limiting belief system children carry from their traumatic experiences into adulthood. Continue reading

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Summer reading worth your time

“I did not want to disappoint others so I created a false image of myself. I tried to look normal on the outside when everything within me was chaotic.” Continue reading

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