Category Archives: Dysfunctional

God’s chosen ones – severely dysfunctional!

These people were messed up! This family history was severely dysfunctional! Did God ever pause and ask why He chose them? Be careful. We might need to ask the same question about… Continue reading

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A distant father

If she displayed to others what he thought to be right and good, then she would receive approval from her dad. As long as she pretended to be the obedient, respectful child, she was accepted. She grew up in hypocrisy, not knowing her father’s love. He was absent emotionally, and to this day, Lindy does not know him, though she still clearly hears his disapproval. Continue reading

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Hiding something behind her eyes

Have you ever noticed what people reveal with their eyes? Continue reading

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Verbal abuse and appearance bullying

Consider why childhood verbal abuse and appearance bullying often cast a long shadow over adult lives and make adult relationships difficult.
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Four kinds of children from dysfunctional homes

Let me introduce you to the four kinds of children in relation to differences in reaction to a dysfunctional home. Continue reading

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How childhood experiences become enemies of true love

Fear and control function as a kind of glue that cements past and present with a strong potential of ruining the future. Continue reading

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The Self-blame trap

Self-blame, a toxic effect of a troubled 18-year factor, is often the basis for a self-limiting belief system children carry from their traumatic experiences into adulthood. Continue reading

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Summer reading worth your time

“I did not want to disappoint others so I created a false image of myself. I tried to look normal on the outside when everything within me was chaotic.” Continue reading

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A quiet domineering father (Lisa’s story)

My father was often quiet, but a stern look or gesture from him conveyed so much danger to me. I was always afraid of setting him off — even though he never hit us or anything like that. It seems difficult to understand how someone can rule with fear without actually doing anything. But I lived in fear of him. Continue reading

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Hurt by a distant father (Julie’s story)

Julie was baffled by unexplainable outbursts of anger and an almost continual feeling of discontentment — even though she was married to a loving, supportive husband and had four beautiful children. Continue reading

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