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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Forgiveness and Reconciliation

The problem is that people assume that forgiving an offender requires them to offer immediate reconciliation. It doesn’t.
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Guarding cherished resentments

A woman who was sexually abused and struggling to be free from anger and bitterness toward her abuser made a powerful acknowledgment when she said, “I began to move toward freedom when I got to a place where I refused to tie my soul to the one who hurt me.” Continue reading

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A closer look at forgiveness

To allow an injury to double into resentment and bitterness only brings deeper misery into our lives. Emotional revenge might feel natural and even justifiable but emotions like anger and resentment only spread injury and pain. They also become a means of giving an offender more control over our lives. Continue reading

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Moving from forgiveness to reconciliation

“He said I am sorry but it’s at least the tenth time! I don’t know what to do. I am told that it’s my Christian duty to forgive and the Lord knows I’ve tried. But each time I forgive him, … Continue reading

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