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The way out of resentment

Is it possible to carry deep resentments and not even be aware of the power they hold over you?

One woman learned the power of suppressed resentment fifteen years after a tragic accident. Continue reading

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Don’t let them drag you down

We don’t want to be in the group identified as “grumblers and faultfinders” (Jude 16). Continue reading

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Do you forgive or enable?

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The workers in the vineyard

Take some time to discover how much there is to learn from Jesus’ parable on the workers and the vineyard. Continue reading

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When life takes painful turns

Joseph’s story teaches us how to protect our hearts from the poison of bitterness and the prison of despair. Continue reading

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Do Christians understand forgiveness?

When people share their stories with me, I find that,

Some have sinned in ways that make them feel beyond the reach of God’s forgiveness. Trapped in a prison of regret and guilt, they’ve lost their joy.
Others have been so badly hurt that they find it hard to forgive. Engulfed in the pain of their past, they don’t know what to do with their hurt and loss. Continue reading

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Forgiveness – An act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Forgiveness and Reconciliation

The problem is that people assume that forgiving an offender requires them to offer immediate reconciliation. It doesn’t.
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Guarding cherished resentments

A woman who was sexually abused and struggling to be free from anger and bitterness toward her abuser made a powerful acknowledgment when she said, “I began to move toward freedom when I got to a place where I refused to tie my soul to the one who hurt me.” Continue reading

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