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Expectation→ Disappointment→ Anger → Resentment

Don’t miss seven steps for uprooting bitterness and dealing with revenge. Continue reading

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When you feel like getting revenge

Seven responses when you feel like getting revenge.  Continue reading

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The way out of resentment

Is it possible to carry deep resentments and not even be aware of the power they hold over you?

One woman learned the power of suppressed resentment fifteen years after a tragic accident. Continue reading

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Do Christians understand forgiveness?

When people share their stories with me, I find that,

Some have sinned in ways that make them feel beyond the reach of God’s forgiveness. Trapped in a prison of regret and guilt, they’ve lost their joy.
Others have been so badly hurt that they find it hard to forgive. Engulfed in the pain of their past, they don’t know what to do with their hurt and loss. Continue reading

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Forgiveness – An act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Questions about forgiveness

Does forgiveness require us to become morally neutral about right and wrong? Is forgiveness an imaginary zone of forgetfulness? Continue reading

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A closer look at Anger

Anger is an emotion of protest and provocation. A person who does not experience anger (in this world) is either amoral or immoral. But unrestrained anger (anger without divine boundaries) is one letter away from danger. Continue reading

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Guarding cherished resentments

A woman who was sexually abused and struggling to be free from anger and bitterness toward her abuser made a powerful acknowledgment when she said, “I began to move toward freedom when I got to a place where I refused to tie my soul to the one who hurt me.” Continue reading

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A closer look at forgiveness

To allow an injury to double into resentment and bitterness only brings deeper misery into our lives. Emotional revenge might feel natural and even justifiable but emotions like anger and resentment only spread injury and pain. They also become a means of giving an offender more control over our lives. Continue reading

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