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When you feel like getting revenge

Seven responses when you feel like getting revenge.  Continue reading

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Emotional drugs of choice

Emotional reactions to past hurts and injuries give us a feeling of justified relief or emotional retaliation.

Yet those who choose emotional drugs often fail to realize that they are giving extended life to the damage. They allow an abuser or neglecter to extend his control and spread his damage to those who are close to us. Continue reading

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The way out of resentment

Is it possible to carry deep resentments and not even be aware of the power they hold over you?

One woman learned the power of suppressed resentment fifteen years after a tragic accident. Continue reading

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Do Christians understand forgiveness?

When people share their stories with me, I find that,

Some have sinned in ways that make them feel beyond the reach of God’s forgiveness. Trapped in a prison of regret and guilt, they’ve lost their joy.
Others have been so badly hurt that they find it hard to forgive. Engulfed in the pain of their past, they don’t know what to do with their hurt and loss. Continue reading

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Forgiveness is an act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Questions about forgiveness

Does forgiveness require us to become morally neutral about right and wrong? Is forgiveness an imaginary zone of forgetfulness? Continue reading

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