A song from a hurting heart

They say that divorce is like death. The pain is even greater when you’ve been forsaken by a spouse. The fears, regrets, guilt, anger, loss and loneliness can cycle through your heart for years.

My oldest son’s friend, Matt Rineer, knows this pain. Music is often a means that helps to heal the heart. Matt (as a musician)  works through his experience of  loss with the following song he wrote.

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Theophobia: Fear of religion in the Academy

Is there an irrational fear of religion or “Theo-phobia” at our Universities? Consider four excuses that academics offer for their Theo-phobia.


My good friend, Dr. Michael Murray, Executive Vice President, Programs & Vice President, Philosophy and Theology, The John Templeton Foundation and former professor of philosophy at Franklin and Marshal College (Lancaster, Pennsylvania) is a distinguished author and lecturer, well-loved by his students. 

A number of years ago, I joined Mike for an Inaugural Lecture he titled, “Who’s Afraid of Religion?” Mike addressed the discomfort in the Academy regarding religion. The Academy, as he described, has an irrational fear of religion or “Theo-phobia.”  It’s not that religion never makes an appearance in academic settings. 

“We are perfectly content,” Murray explained, “to have a discussion about claims like: ‘The oppressive political agenda of the right wing is fueled by religious mania’ or ‘Mahayana Buddhism emerged in the first century BC with the appearance of the Mahayana sutras.’ Not only are we happy to have discussions of that sort–they go on in courses…

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How does God lead us?

Does God speak directly to us? Does God use inner promptings? How do circumstances relate to God’s leading?


I’ve studied and taught extensively on the matter of how God leads His people. There is so much confusion this subject.

    • Does God speak directly to us?
    • Does God use inner promptings?
    • How do circumstances relate to God’s leading?
    • How should we apply Scripture to God’s leading? 

In the articles below, I offer some of what I’ve taught about how God leads His people: 

  1. How can I walk in God’s will? (12 requirements)
  2. Do inner promptings reveal God’s will?
  3. What is your life?
  4. The will of God:
  5. Discerning God’s Will (4 biblical texts)
  6. When Christians disagree:
  7. Three dimensions to God’s will

Steve Cornell

Audio Resource:Where He leads 

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Reflections on the Spirit-filled life

Consider five reflections for individual believers and local Churches and three practical steps to take to live the Spirit filled life.


The personal presence and power of the Holy Spirit are essential to living a life that pleases God. The Holy Spirit is also the source of true Christian community and family life. 

  • “Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs among yourselves, and making music to the Lord in your hearts. And give thanks for everything to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. And further, submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” (Ephesians 5:18-21, NLT).

Spirit filled is a description of one’s character (It is an objective, measurable reality)

  • Acts 11:24, Barnabas is described as “…a good man, full of the Holy Spirit and faith, and a great number of people were brought to the Lord.”
  • Acts 6:4, the Church is instructed to, “pick out from among you seven men of good…

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Understanding Depression

Helping those who battle depression requires an ability to distinguish “sadness due to internal dysfunction” from “sadness that is a biologically designed response to external events.”


treat-thumbThe video link below offers an excellent summary of the challenge of depression. Christian counselors who over simplify matters like depression need the seasoned insight from David Murray.

Family practitioners also need this because they’re the primary prescribers of depression medications and they rarely have sufficient time for thorough evaluation of their patients.

When prescribing medications for depression or other neurologically based life-challenges, I encourage doctors to always attach requirements for more extensive counseling and support. Medicinal aid must never be approached in a one-dimensional manner. We are more the bodies with physical needs. The other dimensions of our being (spiritual, emotional, social) must receive equal consideration in the battle for health.

A holistic approach respects all the dimensions of personhood created by God. Reactionary and one dimensional approaches lack honesty, humility and compassion.

Insightful balance

In “The Loss of Sadness: How Psychiatry Transformed Normal Sadness Into Depressive Disorder,

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The history of Envy and how it spreads

Before allowing yourself to feel safely distant from temptation to envy, consider how envy feeds on other more common temptations…. “The envier gossips. He saves up bad news about others and passes it around like an appetizer at happy hour. The envier grumbles. He murmurs. He complains that all the wrong people are getting ahead. Spite, bitterness, discord which undoes all friendships, accusation, malignity—all these things flow form envy and together turn friendship and good fellowship into a rancorous shambles” (Plantinga).


The history of envy began with the ambitions of a rebellious angel who said, “I will make myself like the Most High,” (Isaiah 14:14). The fallen angel then spread his envious spirit by inciting into the hearts of the first humans the suspicion of Eden – that the Creator was keeping the goods to himself and depriving them of their full potential (Genesis 3:1-6).

Envy then appeared in the first human family as the insidious motive to the first act of homicide. The first son of the first family (Cain) was envious of his younger brother, Abel. Cain’s envy was the prelude emotion that lead to an unimaginable act of homicide (fratricide), (see: Genesis 4). And to establish a connection in the history of envy, Cain, according to Scripture, “belonged to the evil one and murdered his brother” (I John 3:12).

The most vicious…

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How does it feel to be so rich?

Do you think of yourself as one of the wealthiest people in human history? The facts about wealth should challenge the way most of us think and live.



Do you know any rich people? Have you ever thought of yourself as one of the wealthiest people in human history.

A closer look at the facts about wealth will likely challenge the way most of us think about money and what it means to be wealthy.

Is the 1 percent the problem?

1% of the population has almost the same amount of money as the rest of the 99% combined. 48.2 percent of all of the world’s wealth is in the hands of just 1 percent of the population.  

Before feeling sorry for yourself or wrongly judging the rich people, you are among the top 1 percent of earners on the planet if you make more than $50,000 a year.

$10 a day is the norm

Most of the population of the entire world (80 percent) lives on less than $10 a day. If your annual household income is above…

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