Category Archives: Wisdom

A quiet domineering father (Lisa’s story)

My father was often quiet, but a stern look or gesture from him conveyed so much danger to me. I was always afraid of setting him off — even though he never hit us or anything like that. It seems difficult to understand how someone can rule with fear without actually doing anything. But I lived in fear of him. Continue reading

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Audio series – The Master Teacher

Originally posted on Wisdomforlife:
Here is free access to one of the most personally challenging series of messages I’ve presented.  Jesus moved from the visible and known to the unseen and eternal. He transformed everyday earthly objects into lessons about God,…

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5 purposes of pain (C. S. Lewis)

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“There are few things more common to the human experience than pain and suffering. Yet despite (or perhaps because of) their universality, there are also few things that seem more incompatible with the human experience. This…

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Hurt by a distant father (Julie’s story)

Julie was baffled by unexplainable outbursts of anger and an almost continual feeling of discontentment — even though she was married to a loving, supportive husband and had four beautiful children. Continue reading

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Unsafe protective mechanisms

They prefer the safety of protectively circling the wagons to reduce the risk of more hurt—even though… Continue reading

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A life trapped in violence

Much of my childhood was spent crying, and I was often fearful that my mother would kill me. My mother once told me that she wished she had gotten rid of my siblings and me when she had the chance. My heart would break every time she said something like that. Continue reading

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A dark secret (sexual abuse)

Imagine what it does to a little girl’s sense of identity and security when her grandfather sexually violates her. How would Sue feel if someone told her to “just get over it” or “forgive him and move on”? How is she supposed to do this? Continue reading

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