Category Archives: Unresolved issues

Suffering in silence

She finally gained the necessary courage to tell me a story that she had kept to herself until that point. Continue reading

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Moving from anxiety to peace

Anxiety can trouble our minds and distract us from the normal flow of life. Anxiety can be anything from annoying to distracting to debilitating. It can also be caused by and effect physical conditions. Continue reading

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Question about forgiveness and reconciliation

Here’s a question I was asked in a piece I wrote for TheGospelCoalition:  What can you do when you feel a person has severely wronged you but the person simply doesn’t believe he has done anything wrong? In this case, … Continue reading

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Guarding cherished resentments

A woman who was sexually abused and struggling to be free from anger and bitterness toward her abuser made a powerful acknowledgment when she said, “I began to move toward freedom when I got to a place where I refused to tie my soul to the one who hurt me.” Continue reading

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A closer look at forgiveness

To allow an injury to double into resentment and bitterness only brings deeper misery into our lives. Emotional revenge might feel natural and even justifiable but emotions like anger and resentment only spread injury and pain. They also become a means of giving an offender more control over our lives. Continue reading

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When God restores you

Restoration, healing, and refreshment are needed in the rhythm of life. But restoration has much wider implications for all of us. Something vandalized God’s good creation. Continue reading

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7 behaviors of love in community

(A study of Romans 12:9-11) Sincere (v.9) Passionately Discerning (v.9) Affectionate (v.10) Honoring (v.10) Diligent (not lazy) (v. 11) Enthusiastic (in Spirit) (v. 11) Under the Lord (as a servant) (v. 11) Steve Cornell

Posted in Choosing a mate, Christian life, Christianity, Church, Life of a pastor, Local Church, Love, Unity, Unresolved issues | 1 Comment

Six point detox plan

The early years of life significantly shape our identity and character. These years (for better or worse, or both) chart a direction for our future health and stability.   If you’ve experienced a healthy and functionally stable upbringing, you’ve received … Continue reading

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Restoring a Broken Relationship

How do I know if he’s really sorry? How many of you have ever said the words, “I am sorry”? Some people find it hard to speak these words. These people are either too insecure or too proud. But those … Continue reading

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Two Kinds of People in our Churches

“Now the tax collectors and ‘sinners’ were all gathering around to hear him. But the Pharisees and the teachers of the law muttered, ‘This man welcomes sinners and eats with them.’” (Luke 15:1-2) Let’s talk to religious people The target … Continue reading

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