Category Archives: Revenge

When you feel like getting revenge

Seven responses when you feel like getting revenge.  Continue reading

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Forgiveness is an act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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Forgiveness as worship

  Jesus placed forgiveness in the context of worship with this requirement: “When you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your father in heaven may forgive you your sins” (Mark 11:25). When forgiveness becomes … Continue reading

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When your past revisits you

Is it possible to carry deep resentment without being aware of the power it holds over you? Consider the story of a woman who learned the power of suppressed resentment. Fifteen years after a tragic accident, she came to terms … Continue reading

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A closer look at Anger

Anger is an emotion of protest and provocation. A person who does not experience anger (in this world) is either amoral or immoral. But unrestrained anger (anger without divine boundaries) is one letter away from danger. Continue reading

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Responding to the Hurts and Disappointments of Life

  Each week I provide notes from my sermon and an audio link for a group that meets on Wednesday nights at our Church. We call the group Merge. The purpose for it is to provide a smaller setting for … Continue reading

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