Category Archives: Guidelines for marriage decision

Unsafe protective mechanisms

They prefer the safety of protectively circling the wagons to reduce the risk of more hurt—even though… Continue reading

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Let your marriage change you

Marriage is made up of two unique individuals and loss of that uniqueness in either could hurt the purpose of their companionship and completion. Continue reading

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How does God lead us?

Does God speak directly to us? Does God use inner promptings? How do circumstances relate to God’s leading? How should we apply Scripture to God’s leading?  7 posts on how God guides us How can I walk in God’s will? (12 requirements) … Continue reading

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12 callings for living out God’s will

I offer 12 challenges below — not as a formula for knowing God’s will — but more as a focus for being in the right place for His will to be done through you. Each point emphasizes being.   We need to … Continue reading

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A closer look at love

Relationships are miserable when love is absent. But is there an objective way to identify true love?  Love defined The fourteen qualities of love in First Corinthians thirteen offer the best available description of love known to humans. This text remains one of … Continue reading

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How does God lead us?

I’ve studied and taught extensively on the matter of how God leads His people. There is so much confusion this subject. Does God speak directly to us? Does God use inner promptings? How do circumstances relate to God’s leading? How … Continue reading

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12 truths about marriage from the original plan

If you hope to do well in the relationship of marriage, you’ll need a shared vision of the nature and meaning of marriage. Most people who get married don’t think very deeply about the meaning and nature of marriage. Perhaps … Continue reading

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Hope for a better marriage

It takes work for marriage to work. After 29 years of marriage, raising four children to adulthood and planting a thriving Church during those years, my wife and I know that marriage requires intentional commitment. A marriage will not do well … Continue reading

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It’s Wedding time again!

In a few hours, I will co-lead a wedding ceremony with the father of the bride (a former college mate). And this month I had four other couples ask me to do their weddings. I’ve been privileged to stand with many … Continue reading

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Should married couples separate?

When I began ministry (35 years ago), I never would have imagined advising a married couple to separate. I would have understood such a need in cases involving danger, but I never thought much beyond this scenario. Gradually, I encountered individuals dealing with mates… Continue reading

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