Category Archives: Difficult people

Three approaches to communication and leadership

Sometimes we’re not seeing the results we desire in relationships because we fail to recognize that different situations call for different approaches to communication and leadership. Continue reading

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Don’t waste your ministry

“Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces” (Matthew 7:6). These are strong and difficult words … Continue reading

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When critics attack

I have the privilege each month of investing in other pastors. The stories they tell me remind me of many things I’ve experienced and learned over 30 years of ministry.

A common theme I hear is how often critics attack pastors and their Churches. I often encourage pastors to warn people about the consequences of standing against God’s work and servants.

Here are some sober words to Church members who are behaving as antagonists: Continue reading

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Don’t let them drag you down

We don’t want to be in the group identified as “grumblers and faultfinders” (Jude 16). Continue reading

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Resolving conflicts among Christians

Jesus anticipated fractures in Christian fellowship. We should not be surprised by them but ready to seek reconciliation. Continue reading

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Responding to false accusations

Helpful advice for those facing false accusations. Continue reading

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Formula E429 could change your life!

Think of how many times we could defuse a situation by choosing better words and tones. But don’t miss my WARNING LABEL! Continue reading

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Forgiveness – An act of worship

When hurt by others, we often only see the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. Yet those who worship God are called to view forgiveness as an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me or my offender. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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3 motivations for protecting unity

1. The prayer of Jesus John 17:23 -Jesus prayed, “May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.” 2. The passion of God Proverbs 6:16,19 – “There … Continue reading

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6 step detox for a painful past

If your 18-year factor was marked by a significant disruption or a serious dysfunction, it will have a definite effect on your identity, security, and relationship skills.
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