Category Archives: Criticism

Hypocrisy – tough questions worth asking

How could we sit in judgment on others when what is happening right under our noses or in our lives is often far worse? Continue reading

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When critics attack

I have the privilege each month of investing in other pastors. The stories they tell me remind me of many things I’ve experienced and learned over 30 years of ministry.

A common theme I hear is how often critics attack pastors and their Churches. I often encourage pastors to warn people about the consequences of standing against God’s work and servants.

Here are some sober words to Church members who are behaving as antagonists: Continue reading

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Responding to false accusations

Helpful advice for those facing false accusations. Continue reading

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Formula E429 could change your life!

Think of how many times we could defuse a situation by choosing better words and tones. But don’t miss my WARNING LABEL! Continue reading

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Responding to disappointments

When dis-appointment becomes His-appointment. As a communicator, I always find it interesting to notice what people respond to and remember. This past sunday, I gave a message about hope being a distinguishing mark of those who represent Christ. My title for … Continue reading

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Judge not, lest you be judged.

What exactly did Jesus mean when he spoke these words?
Was he advocating a mind your own business policy?
Was he forbidding all judgments about the actions of others? Continue reading

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A discouraged servant of God (action points)

He became so despondent that he sat down under a tree and prayed to die. ‘I have had enough, Lord,’ he said. ‘Take my life” (I Kings 19:1-4). Continue reading

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Words and tones are windows to the heart

How we talk to and about each other says a lot about the quality of our relationship. This is one reason why it’s important to do a little inventory about the way we use our words. Church leaders should teach people … Continue reading

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Mark Regnerus and the third rail in academic research

A friend informed me today of a disturbing controversy involving Mark Regnerus, a tenured sociologist from The University of Texas at Austin. Regnerus dared to objectively research the adult children of parents who have same-sex relationships. His study (published in Social Science Research) found that young-adult children of … Continue reading

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Does God want us to feel that our way through life is rough and perplexing?

Many years ago, I was studying the subject of trials and suffering. I wanted to understand how God related to and used the hardships of life to change us. In my reading, J. I. Packer’s chapter “These Inward Trials” from … Continue reading

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