Category Archives: Attitude

Turn the light off in your eyes

A female cop was preparing to go undercover as a prostitute and part of her preparation involved an exchange with an actual prostitute. The prostitute looked closely at the cop and said, “Turn the light off in your eyes.” The cop then did her best to look as if her eyes were in some way without life and hope. Continue reading

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Discouragement – a “dis” on courage

We cannot adequately encourage those who have lost perspective without discouraging them from a frame of mind that binds them to their discouragement. (Read it again).

Getting out of the fog of despondency often requires a little loving admonishment. Caring friends will cross this line with love and sensitivity when they sense we need a better perspective. Continue reading

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Are you a cantankerous Christian?

Whether old or young, ask yourself if you’re known for being cantankerous and irritable or gracious and grateful. Continue reading

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Formula E429 could change your life!

Think of how many times we could defuse a situation by choosing better words and tones. But don’t miss my WARNING LABEL! Continue reading

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Forgiveness is an act of worship

When sinned against, it’s easy to only see only the horizontal significance of what occurred. “This is about me and the one who hurt me!” we argue. But for those who worship God, forgiveness is an act of worship. This is primarily about God and secondarily about me. When we forgive, we “let go of” instead of “holding on to” or “holding against.”

Forgiveness is an act of releasing to God the hurtful actions and consequences of the wrong done to us. Continue reading

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A needed word on Christian counseling

Believers are often guilty of approaching people as one dimensional beings — as if we were only spiritual beings in need of salvation and spiritual solutions. We need more teaching in the Church on this subject because many Christians lose credibility in an area where they have far more too offer than they realize. Continue reading

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Two essential movements in a Church

Two motions or forces of movement serve as helpful illustrations of the the function of a healthy core group in any organization. Continue reading

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