Category Archives: 18 Year factor

How childhood experiences become enemies of true love

Fear and control function as a kind of glue that cements past and present with a strong potential of ruining the future. Continue reading

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You won’t regret it!

“The purposes of a person’s heart are deep waters, but one who has insight draws them out” (Proverbs 20:5).  Did you buy oder copy yet? Order here 

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Looking back to move ahead

1. True or False? Most people understand that their upbringing affects their lives.
2. True or false? – Most people understand how (and how much) their upbringing affects their lives. Continue reading

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Reluctant historians respond

Let the men speak! Continue reading

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The Self-blame trap

Self-blame, a toxic effect of a troubled 18-year factor, is often the basis for a self-limiting belief system children carry from their traumatic experiences into adulthood. Continue reading

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Summer reading worth your time

“I did not want to disappoint others so I created a false image of myself. I tried to look normal on the outside when everything within me was chaotic.” Continue reading

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A quiet domineering father (Lisa’s story)

My father was often quiet, but a stern look or gesture from him conveyed so much danger to me. I was always afraid of setting him off — even though he never hit us or anything like that. It seems difficult to understand how someone can rule with fear without actually doing anything. But I lived in fear of him. Continue reading

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