Category Archives: 18 Year factor

A quiet domineering father (Lisa’s story)

My father was often quiet, but a stern look or gesture from him conveyed so much danger to me. I was always afraid of setting him off — even though he never hit us or anything like that. It seems difficult to understand how someone can rule with fear without actually doing anything. But I lived in fear of him. Continue reading

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Hurt by a distant father (Julie’s story)

Julie was baffled by unexplainable outbursts of anger and an almost continual feeling of discontentment — even though she was married to a loving, supportive husband and had four beautiful children. Continue reading

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Unsafe protective mechanisms

They prefer the safety of protectively circling the wagons to reduce the risk of more hurt—even though… Continue reading

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A life trapped in violence

Much of my childhood was spent crying, and I was often fearful that my mother would kill me. My mother once told me that she wished she had gotten rid of my siblings and me when she had the chance. My heart would break every time she said something like that. Continue reading

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How could I kill my father?

Charlie’s home was a prison of fear and anger. He hated the man that should have been the most important person in his life. Home should be a safe place for children, a place filled with heartwarming memories. Charlie looked back on a place remembered for the fear and anger it produced. Continue reading

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Pick your parent day

Alex’s story took an unexpected turn when I asked him which parent he chose. He paused and looked down with tear-filled eyes as he admitted,… Continue reading

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My father always told me I was stupid

“I guess it goes back to the way my father treated me. He always told me that I was   stupid and would never amount to anything. Whenever I did something wrong, he would angrily ask, … Continue reading

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