Category Archives: 18 Year factor

Update on my book

I slowly felt the book project moving to the back burner as the tyranny of the urgent took over. The project reached a screeching halt by the time of the year-end holidays. Continue reading

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Emotional drugs of choice

Emotional reactions to past hurts and injuries give us a feeling of justified relief or emotional retaliation.

Yet those who choose emotional drugs often fail to realize that they are giving extended life to the damage. They allow an abuser or neglecter to extend his control and spread his damage to those who are close to us. Continue reading

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Do positives conceal negatives?

The laid-back person turns out to be lazy. The playful person proves to be immature. The confident one turns out to be arrogant. Continue reading

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Five life-controlling perspectives

Perspective is a key word when it comes to the quality of life. It’s also something important to God’s will for our lives. One of the primary practical functions of Scripture is the way it shapes our perspective. Continue reading

Posted in 18 Year factor, Anger, Assurance, Change, Christian worldview, Complaceny, Complaining, Depression, Discouragement, God's Love, God's Will, Gospel-centered, Resentment, Scripture, Spiritual growth, Spiritual inventory, Spiritual transformation, Walking with God, Wisdom | Tagged , , , | 2 Comments

Suffering in silence

She finally gained the necessary courage to tell me a story that she had kept to herself until that point. Continue reading

Posted in 18 Year factor, Abuse, Anger, Anxiety, Change, Christian Counselor, Comfort, Counseling, Crisis, Fear, Grieving, Psychology, Relationships, Restoration, Sex, Sexual Abuse, Sexual Assault, Social work, Suffering, Suicide, Unresolved issues, Victory | Tagged , , , , | 4 Comments

Answering God’s call beyond the walls of the Church

leaders in the Church “need to help our people see that their calling is much bigger than how much time they put into church matters.” Continue reading

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Why bitter people are difficult to help

Bitterness is a protective mechanism used to guard cherished resentments. It can feel good to be bitter because bitterness is an emotional drug that induces temporary feelings of relief. Continue reading

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