Category Archives: 18 Year factor

A simple request

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Men change after they get married

To understand another person and enjoy a healthy relationship, we must assess his or her…. Continue reading

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A strong and accessible hope

As helplessness and hopelessness become dominant feelings the pain is sure to be multiplied to future generations.  Continue reading

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A distant father

If she displayed to others what he thought to be right and good, then she would receive approval from her dad. As long as she pretended to be the obedient, respectful child, she was accepted. She grew up in hypocrisy, not knowing her father’s love. He was absent emotionally, and to this day, Lindy does not know him, though she still clearly hears his disapproval. Continue reading

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I tried to look normal on the outside

I especially had to conquer childhood fears. Being rejected and imperfect is my ultimate fear. I grew up with an unhealthy and unrealistic belief that I needed to be flawless to be loved. Continue reading

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Pick one line and share it

Some key lines from “The 18-Year Factor” by Steve Cornell ● Attachments to a painful past make it difficult to do well in the present. ● The narrow lens of yesterday’s loss doesn’t have to control the way you see … Continue reading

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Love must be earned

Unable to pinpoint the cause of her unrest, Lindy finally broke. She hit a wall and admitted failure…personal, marital, parental, social, and to her dismay, even spiritual. Continue reading

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