When your offender is genuinely repentant, it’s important to be open to restoration. Here are ten guidelines for those who have been deeply hurt and find themselves hesitant to reconcile.
Those who have been significantly (and repeatedly) hurt are not wrong if they feel hesitant about reconciling with their offenders (see – Forgiveness and Reconciliation)
When an offender is genuinely repentant, however, it’s important to be open to the possibility of restoration (unless there are clear issues of safety involved).
Jesus spoke about reconciliation with a sense of urgency (see – Matthew 5:23-24).
Here are ten guidelines for those who find themselves hesitant to reconcile. Seek the aid of a wise counselor as you work through these guidelines to protect yourself from using a process of reconciliation as a means of retaliation.
- Be honest about your motives – Make sure that your desire is to do what pleases God and not to get revenge. Settle the matter of forgiveness (as Joseph did) in the context of your relationship with God. Guidelines for reconciliation should not be retaliatory.
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