For the past 24 years I’ve taught a class for singles on making marriage one of their best decisions.
One of the things we look at is a chart titled, “Things I love now and what they might be in 10 years.”
The person you’re thinking about marrying, for example, is very attentive and you love that about him. Later his attentiveness turns to possessiveness.
- The laid-back person turns out to be lazy.
- The playful person proves to be immature.
- The confident one turns out to be arrogant.
But because you’re in love, you didn’t have eyes to see the negatives in the positives.
The chart is helpful because it reveals how positives can become negatives. It provides an opportunity to help singles look beyond initial impressions to deeper qualities of character.
Since we live in a “the fake it till you make it culture,” it’s especially important to…
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