4 approaches to conflict

  • Passive Responders:  the good is they tend to have a ton of patience. The shadow side is their silence often makes them complicit in the conflict, or at the very least uncaring toward the people in it.
  •  Evasive Responders:  the good is they don’t want to hurt others and often have high mercy gifts. The shadow side is in their avoidance they become the patient who doesn’t want to hear they have cancer until it’s too late and then don’t want to deal with surgery or chemo because it will hurt too badly.
  •  Defensive Responders:  the good is they think/know they are called by God and are ready to do what He said to do. The shadow side is they can leave a trail of scarred souls in their wake, chopped up in the propeller of their rightness.
  •  Aggressive Responders:  the good is they have a clear sense of where they are going and what needs to be done. The shadow side is they pummel people into submission, working on a sense of power and control instead of love and trust (source: Jim Van Yperen, Making Peace).

See also: Watch your tone!

Steve Cornell

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4 Responses to 4 approaches to conflict

  1. Pingback: Four approaches to conflict | MadeleineMaya

  2. tricia says:

    Steve, Probably not the forum to be asking this question, but some clarity would be helpful.
    Can two Christians be unevenly yoked? Thinking on the premise of heading up and managing a NCO say. WisdomForLife is a gem.

  3. tricia says:

    Sorry, that should read NPO not NCO, and is the Bible specifically referring to Christians and non-Christians?

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