20 Questions about the right one

  1. Can you talk ?
  2. Can you play?
  3. Can you work together?
  4. Do you have mutual friends?
  5. Are you proud of each other?
  6. Are you intellectually on the same level?
  7. Do you have common interests?
  8. Do you share the same values – honesty, cleanliness, Church, roles?
  9. Do you feel comfortable with how you make decisions together?
  10. Do you help each other emotionally?
  11. Do you have absolute trust in each other?
  12. Are you more creative and energetic because of each other?
  13. Do you help each other grow closer to God?
  14. Can we accept and appreciate each other’s family?
  15. Do you have unresolved relationships in your past?
  16. Is sex under control?
  17. Have you spent enough time together?
  18. Have you fought and forgiven?
  19. Have you talked about each area of your future life?
  20. Have you had counseling?

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2 Responses to 20 Questions about the right one

  1. Lynx Firenze says:

    Three things. One, God is irrelevant in a relationship as in the rest of the world (don’t get into this, I will win, flying spaghetti monster) two, a truly good relationship will never never need outside counselling from anyone (you’d be able to sort it yourself without needing a referee) and what does “under control” mean as regards sex? Because two people have to be sexually compatible for a rrelationship to work (that means that any weird fetishes usually havr to be mutual not that they should be ignored or repressed)
    Email is lynxfirenze@gmail.com, if you have a counter to any of this feel free to email me.

    • Arielle says:

      Lynx, If you believe that “a truly good relationship will never need outside counseling,” then perhaps you can find the perfect person who can go through loss and trauma without being affected. Except…there is no such person. Everyone, at some point in their lives, will encounter a situation of loss or grief. Regardless of their emotional stability or their relationship, they could benefit from good counseling. Never rule out the value of counseling, especially before marriage. A counselor can help a couple proactively address issues that otherwise might become a source of conflict later on. No matter how great you are at communicating, you still don’t know what you don’t know.

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