Lessons in receiving an Amy Award


I will soon be an honored recipient of another Amy Award from the Amy Foundation. I tell you this not to “toot my own horn” but to share a funny scenario I’ve been through six years in a row (7 total).

A little back ground

Many years ago, I received a call from someone who faithfully read my columns in the Sunday News of Lancaster, Pennsylvania. She encouraged me to send my columns to the Amy Foundation — insisting that what I write is exactly what they look for.

The Amy Foundation (now a partner with World News Group), was founded in 1976 by W. James Russell and his wife Phyllis and was named after their daughter. The awards are given to 15 winning articles that present biblical truth reinforced with scripture in secular, non-religious publications. It’s based in Lansing, Michigan. 

This year (like most) they received over 700 entries and chose 15 for awards. They inform authors that they are chosen as a finalist but do not tell you where your column placed.  The awards are in this order:

First Prize:
Second Prize:
Third Prize:
Fourth Prize:
Fifth Prize:
Award of Outstanding Merit (10 prizes):

The scene I’ve been an honored part of seven times starts with a notice in the mail that I am among the 15 finalists. I begin to think: “perhaps this year I’ve broken through to the top tier of the first five prizes.” I even start to think of the things I could do with the money at different levels. Then I receive my award of outstanding merit and repent for being slightly disappointed with a thousand dollars. Shame on me!

You would think I’d learn the lesson after five years in a row but now I prepare for the sixth. As I write this, I don’t know where I’ve placed, but I am truly honored to receive another award.

More importantly, I am honored to proclaim truth through the medium God has opened to me and prayerful that I will never lose sight of this privilege! 

Still learning my lesson,

Steve Cornell


The winning column this year (What if I don’t feel love for my spouse) appeared in the Morning Call of Allentown, Pennsylvania. 

What if I don’t feel love for my spouse

A wife once told me that she planned to leave her husband because (in her words) she “just didn’t love him anymore.” When I asked her to change the way she worded her decision by saying, “I am choosing to no longer value my husband and to break my commitment to remain faithful to him,” she insisted on framing it in a way that made her a victim of feelings she could not change. Ironically, she also thought she was being virtuous because of her honesty and lack of hypocrisy.

I’ve had people tell me they want to be married because of love and others (like this woman) tell me they want out of their marriages because they no longer feel love for their mate. This has led me to ask some serious questions about the nature of love.

What is love? Is it something we can fall into and fall out of? Is it chemistry? Infatuation? Is it an emotional response or a choice? In my evaluation, I’ve concluded that we need to distinguish two dimensions of love.

1. Being in love

This dimension is the emotional attraction of love. It’s what people mean when they speak of “falling in love.” It’s usually based on more superficial reactions to appearance and first impressions. Clearly, it’s a natural part of human attraction and although not necessarily wrong, it’s not enough to sustain a meaningful and lasting relationship. It’s far too superficial. Deeply satisfying relationships are built on the second dimension of love:

2. Behaving in love

This dimension does not depend on feelings and chemistry. It’s the love of volition.

It’s the choice to respond to my mate in a loving manner — regardless of feelings. This dimension of love is a choice to value my mate and seek his or her best. While I can’t always make myself feel a certain way, I can always choose to act in a loving way.

In marriage, the distinction between these two dimensions is very important. Most relationships start with a high dose of being in love and, in most relationships, these feeling diminish with time. When this happens, the key to keeping the flame of love burning is not pursuit of feelings — but a decision to value your mate and be devoted to his or her best — no matter what one feels.

Behaving in love is a choice to act in love even when we don’t feel love. Many people will think I am advocating some form of dishonesty. Yet, surprisingly, when we choose to love, the feelings often follow the actions.

Cultural emphasis

It has become a contemporary mark of good character to be true to your feelings. A failure to act consistently with your feelings, were told, would be hypocritical.

This cultural ethic is often used to give people a false sense of virtue when breaking deep commitments. On the basis of “avoiding hypocrisy” and “being honest enough to admit a loss of feelings,” married people feel justified (even virtuous) in breaking wedding vows.

There is a deep and self-destructive deception in this line of reasoning. It implies that we are victims of our feelings instead of being capable of mastering them. A big problem with this is that feelings come and go with changes in the weather.

Do you go to work only when you feel like going? Do athletes or great musicians only practice when they feel like it? We simply cannot live healthy and productive lives if we let feelings master us. This is especially true in relationships.

if we hope to experience deep and lasting relationships as intended by God, love must be understood as a value word and an action more than a feeling

Remember that God demonstrated His love for us not because we were a warm and lovable group of people whom he couldn’t resist. “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8).

Steve Cornell

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