Watch your tone!

It’s not always what you say but how you say it.

Do you tend to use a negative tone in communication? Did you grow up in a home where you were exposed to negative or cynical tones? Slow down and Listen to yourself. Be honest with yourself.

When one of the tones listed below is prominent in your way of communicating, it points to deeper issues — heart issues that must be resolved. 

12 destructive tones

    1. Condescending
    2. Bossy
    3. Angry
    4. Snobby
    5. Frustrated
    6. Impatient
    7. Defensive
    8. Moody
    9. Distant
    10. Disrespectful
    11. Cynical
    12. Whining

One of the best ways to change our communication is to replace destructive tones with constructive ways of speaking to each other. An obvious example would be to replace gossip or slander with positive words about others. Words of appreciation and encouragement are excellent alternatives to the dark tones of grumbling and whining. 

Use the formula E429 to remind yourself of God’s will for our speech. This formula is based on Ephesians 4:29 –  “Let everything you say be good and helpful, so that your words will be an encouragement to those who hear them.” (Ephesians 4:29, NLT).

Steve Cornell


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