In a few hours, I will co-lead a wedding ceremony with the father of the bride (a former college mate). And this month I had four other couples ask me to do their weddings. I’ve been privileged to stand with many couples on their big day. More importantly, I’ve invested hours with them in pre-marital preparation. I tell them that pre-marital counseling is not an outpatient procedure. It’s more like a trip into the O.R.! It takes work for marriage to work. It requires significant maturity.
Marriage is meant to be one of the closest relationships of companionship known to humankind. I am painfully aware of many marriages where companionship has become a very difficult matter. It’s important for all married people to know that all marriages struggle and experience seasons of challenge. My wife and I will soon hit the big 30 year anniversary. We’ve raised four children to adulthood on the same track of overseeing the beginning and growth of a thriving local Church. This year we anticipate being grandparents for the first time. Our daughter is due in May; our daughter-n-law, in September.
Since I do a lot of pre-marriage and marriage counseling, I am always reading books and articles on the subject. Currently I am reading three books:
I read the first edition of When the Vow Breaks and found it exceptionally helpful. Kniskern is an attorney who faced the agony of an unexpected divorce. The combination of his transparency, legal background and commitment to the Scriptures makes this a uniquely helpful book.
Those who have been divorced or considering marrying someone who has been divorced should read Kniskern’s books. I’ve heard good things about Keller’s book on marriage. Since I’ve appreciated him on many other subjects, I don’t expect to be disappointed on this one.
One other related matter. On Friday, March 30th, I was notified that I will receive my 6th writing award from the Amy Foundation. The column that won the award focused on the theme of love. Titled, “What’s love got to do with it?” I looked at the 14 qualities of true love from I Corinthians 13. It’s VERY important for married people to revisit often God’s prescription for love. Take a moment RIGHT NOW and prayerfully review your practice of love –even if you’re not yet married. Discerning genuine love is important to everyone! Go to the article here.