It’s sad to observe the thinly veiled arrogance one is treated with unless he or she fully endorses gay marriage. I am quite sure getting a job with CNN or MSNBC would require endorsement of gay marriage. Don’t misunderstand. If they required treating all people with respect no matter their sexual preference, I would fully agree. But this is not the way it works.
The morality currently being imposed says that if you choose a different moral viewpoint on homosexual behavior, you’ll be treated as a social outcast and made the object of condescending ridicule or even angry intolerance.
We’re now at the point of facing widespread social coercion to approve the sexual preferences of people who want to engage same-sex behavior. Again, I do not mean forced to tolerate but forced to approve. In many spheres, you’re simply not permitted to have a different viewpoint without facing severe negative treatment.
As a member of a democratic society, I respect the liberty of people to make their own moral choices within the law. In such a society, I also reject all violence against those who choose different lifestyles. But now we’re experiencing forms of social violence against those who simply disagree with same-sex behavior.
The really sad thing about this is that it’s being supported by a systematic propaganda based on deception and outright lies. I point this out not to claim any moral superiority to others (I am the worse sinner I know), but to expose fallacious logic being used as propaganda.
I fully and painfully realize that it’s not possible to address sexuality from sinless superiority. We’re all sexual deviants, if only in our thoughts. We all struggle with temptations– whether heterosexual or homosexual. We all need God’s grace, forgiveness and strength to live out His will for sexuality.
On a pastoral note, one reason I don’t like to address this subject is the risk of discouraging those who struggle deeply with powerful desires. Yet I am convinced that it’s unloving to say what people want to hear if it isn’t the truth they need to hear. As difficult as it is to live by truth, it’s the only path to freedom. This is why we ALL need a Savior and an Advocate in Jesus Christ (I John 2:1-2).
My deeper social concern is about those determined to radically change the institution of marriage. God ordained marriage for human good based on male and female. This is His context for bearing and raising children.
As is more than obvious, in a fallen world, the ideal of divine intent will not be fully realized and this is why I (like most pastors) invest very large amounts of time building strong marriages and homes. When I am drawn aside to address gay marriage, I am motivated by the same desire to encourage family according to God’s design.
Particularly troublesome regarding the national focus on gay marriage has been the manipulation of words to promote a radical redefinition of marriage and family.
I feel a need to expose this agenda – not to intentionally offend others – but to invite clearheaded thinking based on facts. In the seven points below, I outline deceptive distortions of truth used to change the way the public thinks.
1. Using the language of civil rights: For several decades, we’ve heard increased association of gay rights with battles for racial and gender equality. A desire for homosexual sex (we’re told) is an inborn condition, not a choice. Although based on false comparison and without scientific support, the aim is to get the public to view gays and lesbians as they would people of race. If successful, those who morally oppose gay marriage will be viewed as hateful racists who oppose the civil rights of an oppressed minority.
2. Using accusations of hate and irrational fear: The goal has been to convince the public that opponents of gay marriage are bigoted hate-mongers with irrational phobias. They are homophobic and full of venomous prejudice. People are not permitted to see things differently. They are not free to choose a moral position on homosexual conduct. The agenda is in overdrive to portray anyone who does not endorse the gay lifestyle as irrational religious fanatics who destroy civility. Supporters of traditional marriage are presented as dangerous people who cling to bigoted ideas of a by-gone era.
3. Exposing heterosexual hypocrisy: Attention is drawn to marriage as a failing institution among heterosexuals. This is partly done to make Christians appear to be hypocritical for opposing gay marriage when they have their own marriage crisis. It’s simply an effort to silence opposition to gay marriage. It also assumes that gay marriage will improve the marriage scene.
4. Using the language of justice: In a twisted way, radical gay activists portray opponents of gay marriage as perpetrators of injustice. Accusations of inequity for denying loving people the opportunities to have the same rights and freedoms others enjoy are repeatedly used. The laws that protect all citizens are sufficient but gay activists demand special laws for their lifestyle choices.
5. Using the language of religion: Connecting gay rights to religious freedom and claiming God’s approval of gay relationships is another tactic. Repeated scoldings are issued to remind religious people that God is about love and tolerance. Although every major faith for most of history opposed homosexual behavior, they suggest that it’s the view of a fringe radical group of fundamentalists. They even deceptively portray Jesus as favoring gay marriage based on an argument from silence (see: Matthew 19:3-9).
6. Playing the victim card: Every crime or death that can be connected in any measure to opposition to homosexuality is used to demand special laws for the homosexual lifestyle. Much of the media want us to believe that all opposition to gay marriage incites hate and violence and even causes suicide. This has played on the gullibility of Christian compassion and to silence differing viewpoints.
7. Using judicial coercion: Since State after State has approved constitutional amendments protecting traditional marriage, radical gay activists have used the judiciary to force Americans to accept gay marriage. In Massachusetts, for example, four justices unilaterally imposed their endorsement of gay marriage on the entire state — despite surveys indicating that the majority of residents did not favor gay marriage.
These tactics are being used to pressure the public to accept and celebrate the homosexual lifestyles as normal. Those who chose the homosexual lifestyle use to say that all they wanted was to be left alone to live as they desire. The new agenda is not about tolerance and respect but pursuing special status, laws and recognition for the sexual choices of a small percentage of citizens.
We must not fall for the unproven hypothesis that being gay is something comparable to race and gender. Homosexuality is about the sex people are choosing, not unalterable conditions of birth. It’s both cruel and unloving toward those tempted by homosexual desire to teach them that they have no choice but to accept that they are born for this and cannot change.
Are we prepared to make the kinds of sex people desire civil rights issues? Those who prefer homosexual behavior are free as consenting adults to engage in it. We must renounce those who treat them with violence for exercising their freedom. But if they’re treated wrongfully for their choices, the same laws that protect others should be applied to protect them. We must not make this about discrimination—unless we want to extend civil rights status to every sexual lifestyle people choose.
Discrimination of the civil rights kind (regarding race and gender) injures people for what they are by nature not for the sex they desire or some other behavior they choose.
Again, I invest large amounts of time in preventative, interventional and restorative efforts to build strong marriages. A radical redefinition of the institution of marriage and family will not improve things. Homosexual relationships are notoriously troubled relationship — often involving abuse and unfaithfulness.
Jesus Christ validated the words that have been the foundation for marriage since the beginning of our nation: “…at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’” (Matthew 19:4-5).