8 dynamics of addiction and a plan for change

  • Have you ever been caught in the grip of addiction?
  • Do you know someone held hostage by addiction?

It could be alcohol, tobacco, food, gambling, pornography, drugs, exercise, sleeping, or spending money.

The destructive effects of addiction are not only  significant in the life of the addict, they are also painful to those close to him.

Addictions can leave a trail of shattered lives.

One of the first steps to overcoming a controlling habit is to understand what it is and how it has a hold on you.

Consider eight dynamics common to addiction

  1. Repetition of pleasurable and therefore habit-forming behavior, plus escalating tolerance and desire.
  2. Unpleasant after effects of such behavior, including withdrawal symptoms and self-reproach.
  3. Vows to moderate or quit, followed by relapses and attendant feelings of guilt, shame and general distress.
  4. Attempts to ease this distress with new rounds of the addictive behavior (or with the first rounds of a companion addiction).
  5. Deterioration of work and relationships, with accompanying cognitive disturbances, including denial, delusions, and self-deceptions, especially about the effects of the addiction, and the degree to which one is enthralled by it.
  6. Gradually increasing preoccupation, then obsession, with the addictor.
  7. Compulsivity in addictive behavior; evidence that one’s will has become at least partly split, enfeebled, and enslaved.
  8. A tendency to draw others into the web of addiction, people who support and enable the primary addiction.  These “co-dependents” present certain addictive patterns of their own—in particular, the simultaneous need to be needed by the addict and to control him.  The co-dependent relationship is thus one in which primary and parasitic addictions join (From: Not the Way It’s Supposed to Be, Cornelius Plantinga Jr.).

Have you given up?

Perhaps you realize that you need to break a controlling behavior, but you have given up the fight. Have you lost all hope for change?

“Mary was overweight. The doctor assured her that the cause was not a physical problem, but was caused by her overeating. She tried several diets over a period of months. This wasn’t easy for her; she unrealistically expected dramatic and immediate results. Repeatedly, she broke her promises to herself. Eventually, discouragement turned to hopelessness, and Mary gave up trying to lose weight” (Erwin Lutzer, How to Say ‘No’ to a Stubborn Habit).

If you’ve accepted failure as a way of life the first change needed is a change of attitude. Change is an impossible path for those who accept defeat.

We are deeply affected by the mindsets we choose. Change must begin in our thinking before it alters our behavior, emotions and appetites.

Lasting change requires daily choices to look at life through the right lens. Defeat is the wrong lens! (see: Philippians 2:3-5; 4:8, 13)

A plan for change – 20/20

The psalmist prayed, “How can a young man keep his way pure? By living according to your word. … I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you” (Psalm 119:9-11).

I recommend a 20/20 approach to Scripture: read for 20 minutes; contemplate for 20 minutes. In Scripture, we find the hope and power for change.

In “How to Say ‘No’ to a Stubborn Habit,” Dr. Erwin Lutzer wrote, “A young man, caught in the grip of homosexuality, struggled with this sin for a period of months. God eventually changed him so radically that he developed normal attractions for the opposite sex.”

“Today he is a godly, sensitive young man. God taught him principles of commitment which he has been able to apply to all areas of his life. He memorized more than 200 verses of scripture during those months of agonizing struggle. His sinful habit drove him to seek God and become intimately acquainted with the Almighty. He began by being occupied with his problem; today he is occupied with his God.”

Although there are no easy solutions for breaking long-established patterns, change is possible. Through patient and persistent application of truth we can break the power of deception and make steady progress.

Victory is possible!

Setbacks are often part of the struggle, but as Lutzer suggests, “God uses your struggle to give you a thorough housecleaning, reorganize your priorities and make you dependent on His grace … You must want spiritual freedom, not merely for our own sake, but for God’s sake as well.  Only then will you find the victory he promises.”

Prayer for victory:

“Lord, I confess my sin, particularly my rebellion against your authority. In agreeing that I have sinned, I also agree that this sin must be forsaken. Thank you for your forgiveness. I am grateful for this powerful temptation, which gave me the chance to prove that I love you more than any pleasure in the world. I thank you that the temptation is not greater than I can bear, and I rejoice at how you will use it in my life. I look forward to getting to know you better, and I am glad that you have sent me this trial as a reminder of how desperately I need you” (Erwin Lutzer).

Steve Cornell

See: Role of Scripture in change

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7 Responses to 8 dynamics of addiction and a plan for change

  1. Carol says:


    Thank you for this great post. I was googling on the subject of deception and addiction and found your site. I am in the process of divorcing my husband after 25 years of marriage. I am a Christian, as is he, but he is an addict (sexual) and is so deceived by Satan that he no longer even understands any Biblical chastisement. We attended crisis level counseling, but my husband maintained that I was the one with the problem. I have been supportive of him over the years, but never put my foot down with the strength I have this time. I have told him that unless he gets help I will divorce him. He thinks I want a divorce for no good reason, and when I tell him the truth (again!) it is as if there is ‘no one home’ on the inside. He just stares back at me. I have told him with my words (verbally and in writing) as well as with visual signs; but I have finally come to the conclusion that this deception is far greater than my testimony. As I read down your list, my husband is indeed enslaved and has become enfeebled in his mind. He is at number 8 now as he has a woman friend who is co-dependent and simply supports him so long as he is “happy.” I would like to link to your post on my blog, if that is OK? Again, thank you for your words — they are so true in my case.

    Blessings in Jesus’ Name,


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