Category Archives: Should I get married?

A closer look at love

Posted on May 1, 2013 by

Relationships are miserable when love is absent. But is there an objective way to identify true love?  Love defined The fourteen qualities of love in First Corinthians thirteen offer the best available description of love known to humans. This text remains one of … Continue reading →

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Sex and Marriage

Posted on October 29, 2012 by

When couples are preparing for marriage, we help them by looking at the well-known sources of marital conflict. One of them is sex. I explain to engaged couples that the reason for conflict over sex is the very thing that … Continue reading →

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To love and to cherish — according to God’s standards

Posted on August 6, 2012 by

I typically use the traditional vows in wedding ceremonies. Some couples, however, ask to write their own vows.  When they do this, I always ask to review their vows to make sure they align with the substance of the traditional … Continue reading →

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What Should You Expect?

Posted on April 23, 2012 by

Paul Tripp raises an important question for married people in his book titled, “What did you expect?” Many enter marriage with unrealistic expectations. They fail to understand what it realistically means for two sinners to enter a covenant relationship like marriage.  In … Continue reading →

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The Greatest Way to Live

Posted on April 2, 2012 by

If you don’t like the life you’re living, allow me to point you to “the most excellent way” (I Corinthians 12:31). If you want to leave mediocrity and complacency behind to pursue a transformed life, faith and hope are important … Continue reading →

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Does Ephesians 5:21 teach mutual submission in marriage?

Posted on February 23, 2012 by

  It shouldn’t surprise anyone that the command for wives to submit to their husbands is among the most difficult biblical teachings for people to accept. Perhaps it has always been a hard saying but with the rise of feminism, … Continue reading →

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What if I don’t feel love for my spouse?

Posted on February 5, 2012 by

A wife once told me that she planned to leave her husband because (in her words) she “just didn’t love him anymore.” When I asked her to change the way she worded her decision by saying, “I am choosing to … Continue reading →

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Sex and marriage

Posted on February 2, 2012 by

Do you wish you had more sex in your marriage? Does my question seem a little forward? Hear me out before reaching wrong conclusions. A number of years ago, I asked the same question at a large gathering of men … Continue reading →

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5 commitments for a good marriage

Posted on December 19, 2011 by

My wife and I will soon celebrate 30 years of marriage. We share so many good memories but we also experienced many challenges and trials. Two years after being married, we moved from Philadelphia to Millersville, Pennsylvania to start a Church. We … Continue reading →

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Freedom from your past

Posted on September 23, 2011 by

 My grandfather was an alcoholic for most of his adult life. Like many alcoholics, he was functional during the day and drunk at night. My mother recently told me that she never had a meaningful conversation with her father. As … Continue reading →

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