Category Archives: Criticism

Responding to disappointments

When my dis-appointment becomes His-appointment. As a communicator, I always find it interesting to notice what people respond to and remember. This past sunday, I gave a message about hope being a distinguishing mark of those who represent Christ. My title for … Continue reading

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Judge not, lest you be judged.

Try sharing a strong moral opinion in a mixed crowd and notice how quickly you’ll hear: “Judge not, lest you be judged.” These are perhaps the most well known words of Jesus. They’re commonly used to keep people from making … Continue reading

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A discouraged servant of God (action points)

  We can learn a lot about discouragement and how to find our way out of it by looking closely at a great servant of God who reached a deep state of despondency. His name is Elijah and he became … Continue reading

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Words and tones are windows to the heart

How we talk to and about each other says a lot about the quality of our relationship. This is one reason why it’s important to do a little inventory about the way we use our words. Church leaders should teach people … Continue reading

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Mark Regnerus and the third rail in academic research

A friend informed me today of a disturbing controversy involving Mark Regnerus, a tenured sociologist from The University of Texas at Austin. Regnerus dared to objectively research the adult children of parents who have same-sex relationships. His study (published in Social Science Research) found that young-adult children of … Continue reading

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Does God want us to feel that our way through life is rough and perplexing?

Many years ago, I was researching the subject of trials and suffering in the Bible. Of all I read, J. I. Packer’s chapter “These Inward Trials” from his book Knowing God resonated most deeply with me. Here is wisdom that should … Continue reading

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Words are windows into hearts

  When things go wrong in relationships, we can almost always be sure that people are talking in unhelpful or even harmful ways. This is one reason why it’s important to do a personal inventory about the way we use … Continue reading

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Five resources for guilt and forgiveness

  Dealing with guilt Eight possible reasons we still feel guilty Guarding cherished resentments A closer look at forgiveness Forgive or else!

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Four questions leaders must ask

After more than 28 years of leadership, I’ve learned a few important lessons. Most of my years as a leader have been in one local Church. It’s been my privilege to help a Church grow from ten to hundreds of … Continue reading

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Are you a judgmental Christian?

  “Judge not, lest you be judged.” These are perhaps the most well known words of Jesus. They’re commonly used to keep people from making moral judgments about others. Try sharing a strong moral opinion in a mixed crowd and … Continue reading

Posted in Church Leadership, Counseling, Criticism, Debatable Matters, Discernment, Discrimination, Fellowship, Guidelines for living, John R. W. Stott, Judging others, Legalism, Matthew 7:1-6, Unity | 7 Comments