When I perform a wedding (over 150), I always look at the groom when the bride enters the door. What a joy to see their joy! (see some examples here).
When I teach a class for singles each fall semester (for 20 years now), I always ask why it is that 200,000 marriages in America end before reaching their 3rd Anniversary. How does a couple go from the joy of celebration to the hostility of divorce in this short time?
We invest a good bit of time answering this question and it proves enlightening for the singles and hopefully serves to protect them from such tragedy. I remind singles that it’s one thing to “be” in love with someone; it’s another to love someone for life.
The difference between being in love and behaving in love must be understood (see resources below for explaining this distinction).
Short audio clips:
Resources for helping singles:
- What if I don’t feel love for my spouse?
- To love and to cherish
- How can we know what love is?
- 5 commitments for a good marriage