The issue of gay marriage remains in headline news. Even our local paper here in conservative Lancaster, Pennsylvania had a front page announcement today informing readers that it will begin running engagement announcements of same-sex couples.
Those who oppose redefining marriage are typically accused of anything from ignorance to hate. In other words, opposing view points to gay marriage are not permitted.
Do you ever get the feeling that tolerance will only be granted to those who agree with gay marriage?
Personally, I have never spoken evil against a person who chooses a homosexual lifestyle. I would never mock them and feel no fear of one who chooses this life. Although I oppose homosexual conduct on moral grounds, I have never suggested that consenting adults should be prohibited by our government from engaging in homosexual behavior in their private lives. It is not my place to impose that opinion.
My concern has been effort to radically redefine the nature of marriage to include gay marriage. I simply do not see this as something good for society. I realize that we have serious problems with marriage and divorce in our nation, and this is why I invest large amounts of time in preventative, interventional and restorative efforts to build strong marriages. A radical redefinition of the institution of marriage and family will not improve things. Homosexual relationships are notoriously troubled relationship — often involving abuse and multiple acts of unfaithfulness.
What especially concerns me is the nature of the arguments used to sway national opinion on gay marriage. They have become predictably notable for blatant distortion of the facts. Those who make these arguments also assume that they get a pass for being intolerant toward opponents. They often speak to and about opponents of gay marriage with condescending ridicule and belligerent name calling — while most of mainstream media turns a deaf ear.
Particularly troublesome regarding the unending national focus on gay marriage has been the manipulation of words to promote a radical redefinition of marriage and family.
I realize that I have been unrelenting in my effort to expose this agenda and I take no pleasure in doing this. I sincerely do not desire to offend others. Instead, I am asking for honesty about the facts.
I certainly don’t write from moral high ground as I am painfully aware of my need for a Savior to forgive my sins. Yet, in a democracy, each voice should be welcome at the table and each person’s arguments should be subjected to the demands of logic and truth.
I personally believe it is best for society to follow the Creator’s plan and purpose for marriage. This is what the Lord Jesus Christ taught when he was questioned about divorce (Matthew 19:1-9). More on this later.
In the seven points below, I outline deceptive tactics repeatedly used to change the way the public thinks.
1. Using the language of civil rights:
For several decades, we’ve heard increased association of gay rights with battles for racial and gender equality. A desire for homosexual sex (we’re told) is an inborn condition, not a choice. Although based on false comparison and without scientific support, the aim is to get the public to view gays and lesbians as they would people of race. If successful, those who morally oppose gay marriage will be viewed as hateful racists who oppose the civil rights of an oppressed minority.
2. Using accusations of hate and irrational fear:
The goal has been to convince the public that opponents of gay marriage are bigoted hate-mongers with irrational phobias. They are homophobic and full of venomous prejudice. People are not permitted to see things differently. They are not free to choose a moral position on homosexual conduct. The agenda is in overdrive to portray anyone who does not endorse the gay lifestyle as irrational religious fanatics who destroy civility. Supporters of traditional marriage are presented as dangerous people who cling to bigoted ideas of a by-gone era.
3. Exposing heterosexual hypocrisy:
Attention is drawn to marriage as a failing institution among heterosexuals. This is partly done to make Christians appear to be hypocritical for opposing gay marriage when they have their own marriage crisis. It’s simply an effort to silence opposition to gay marriage. It also assumes that gay marriage will improve the marriage scene.
4. Using the language of justice:
In a twisted way, radical gay activists portray opponents of gay marriage as perpetrators of injustice. Accusations of inequity for denying loving people the opportunities to have the same rights and freedoms others enjoy are repeatedly used. The laws that protect all citizens are sufficient but gay activists demand special laws for their lifestyle choices.
5. Using the language of religion:
Connecting gay rights to religious freedom and claiming God’s approval of gay relationships is another tactic. Repeated scoldings are issued to remind religious people that God is about love and tolerance. Although every major faith for most of history opposed homosexual behavior, they suggest that it’s the view of a fringe radical group of fundamentalists. They even deceptively portray Jesus as favoring gay marriage based on an argument from silence (see: Matthew 19:3-9).
6. Playing the victim card:
Every crime or death that can be connected in any measure to opposition to homosexuality is used to demand special laws for the homosexual lifestyle. Much of the media want us to believe that all opposition to gay marriage incites hate, violence and even suicide. This has played on the gullibility of Christian compassion in an effort to silence differing viewpoints.
7. Using judicial coercion:
Since State after State has approved constitutional amendments protecting traditional marriage, radical gay activists have used the judiciary to force Americans to accept gay marriage. In Massachusetts, for example, four justices unilaterally imposed their endorsement of gay marriage on the entire state — despite surveys indicating that the majority of residents did not favor gay marriage.
These tactics are being used to pressure the public to accept and celebrate the homosexual lifestyles as normal. Those who chose the homosexual lifestyle use to say that all they wanted was to be left alone to live as they desire. The new agenda is not about tolerance and respect but pursuing special status, laws and recognition for the sexual choices of a small percentage of citizens.
We must not fall for the unproven hypothesis that being gay is something comparable to race and gender. Homosexuality is about the sex people are choosing, not unalterable conditions of birth. It’s both cruel and unloving toward those tempted by homosexual desire to teach them that they have no choice but to accept that they are born for this and cannot change.
Are we prepared to make the kinds of sex people desire civil rights issues? Those who prefer homosexual behavior are free as consenting adults to engage in it. We must renounce those who treat them with violence for exercising their freedom. But if they’re treated wrongfully for their choices, the same laws that protect others should be applied to protect them. We must not make this about discrimination—unless we want to extend civil rights status to every sexual lifestyle people choose.
Discrimination of the civil rights kind (regarding race and gender) injures people for what they are by nature not for the sex they desire or some other behavior they choose.
Like most pastors, I invest large amounts of time in preventative, interventional and restorative efforts to build strong marriages. A radical redefinition of the institution of marriage and family will not improve things on the marriage scene. Homosexual relationships are notoriously troubled — often involving abuse and multiple acts of sexual unfaithfulness.
Jesus Christ validated the words that have been the foundation for marriage since the beginning of our nation: “…at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’” (Matthew 19:4-5).